Self-esteem is the love and care we give to ourselves. Self-regard is measured not by how others perceive us but by the opinion, we have of ourselves and by our ability to meet the challenges of life. The important thing is how worthy we consider ourselves to be.
Low self-confidence can lead to feeling isolated, useless and worthless as a person. People with poor self-esteem reject any compliment and are wary of praise, because they think that they do not deserve it. On the other hand, they accept any criticism without questioning it, because of their own sense of low self-worth. This misperception of their worth is reinforced by outside criticism and it becomes a vicious circle.
The opinion you have of your ability to deal with the situations that life presents you with, will give the extent of your self-esteem. A healthy self-concept does not imply that we are always perfect, because this attitude creates arrogance and narcissism.
The first step to develop self-confidence is to be able to reflect on both the qualities and the limitations of our personality.
The second step is to accept these negative aspects of our nature, without trying to deny them or repress them; to try to analyse objectively when someone makes a comment or criticism; to take it as an opportunity for growth. If the feedback is unfair, we can rule it out.
The third step is to take responsibility for it, if you discover any aspect of your conduct that you want to change. It can seem like hard work at the beginning, because it is like exercising a muscle rather than changing a habit immediately.
Above all, try to be compassionate and accept that perhaps some aspects of your character can be improved, but avoid excessive perfectionism. Dare to look at yourself without fear and with the confidence of having value as a human being with your own talents and limitations. In this way, you can integrate the various aspects of the personality that sometimes are in conflict and create an internal struggle.